By saying, “I do,” you commit to a lifetime of forgiving and
forgetting, but there are a few actions you should never accept or
permit in your marriage. Love isn’t always unconditional. If your spouse
is behaving in any of these ways, please seek help:
1. Disgust
Contempt includes “sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, eye-rolling,
sneering, mockery, and hostile humor. It is essentially reacting with
disgust toward your partner. When you show contempt toward your spouse,
problems don’t get resolved, and it destroys your husband’s or wife’s
self esteem
2. Sexually explicit media
Being exposed to P0*n just once can make people feel less in love with their significant other.
3. Last place
Illness, children and careers often take priority, but spouses
shouldn’t always come in last place. If your spouse is consistently
paying attention to everyone and everything but you, that is a problem.
Partner neglect is a real thing, and it is a silent relationship killer.
4. Vices
A “vice” includes any immoral conduct. Does your partner lie? Cheat?
Steal? Does he or she break the law? Your spouse’s misconduct not only
affects their life; it affects your life as well. If your spouse gets
sued, goes to jail or goes bankrupt for his or her actions, it is going
to follow you wherever you go.
5. Rage
There is a huge difference between anger and rage. Couples are
obviously going to get mad or annoyed at each other from time to time.
But rage is completely different and much more intense. If your spouse
lashes out in uncontrollable hatred and fury, that is neither normal nor
healthy.
6. Cheating
Infidelity is never acceptable. A strong, healthy marriage requires
complete faithfulness. Authors Joy and Gary Lundberg explain in their
article, “10 ways you are being unfaithful to your spouse and don’t even
know it,” that cheating includes flirting with co-workers, confiding to
someone of the opposite gender, talking negatively about your spouse,
spending time alone with someone of the opposite gender, dressing to
attract someone other than your spouse, and withholding s*x as
punishment.
7. Hitting
Physical, verbal and emotional abuse are never acceptable in a
marriage. If your spouse hits, punches, degrades or humiliates you, get
help. Even if you are married, you should never be forced to have s*x
against your will.
If you are experiencing any of these problems, don’t give up hope —
but get help immediately. Find a counselor or spiritual leader that you
can talk to and make the necessary steps to save your marriage or find
an escape to leave a harmful situation.
